IN EVERY GOODBYE..

Do you know that the phrase “Goodbye’ was first introduced in 1565 AD, coined from “God be with ye” before the anti-religionists started attacking it in 1700 AD? But despite this, the meaning it conveys has has changed  emotional landscapes in workplaces, homes, and public events.

Every goodbye captures the truth about the cyclical return of human relationships and experiences - "We part to meet, and we meet to part” phrase. There is a difference between “Send-off” and “Send-Forth”.  I've witnessed where an employee resigned, and the staff agreed he was not qualified for even a send-off.

The story of "Mr Sack Am" in my book - "Consider It Done" –has drawn global comments, rehashing the force behind how we end relationships, and how it is essential step to live good in the NOW, otherwise, it’s  a ‘hunting memory’. 

While parting ways can be difficult, it's important to know that every ending is a potential new beginning, and saying goodbye in any form, is an opportunity to express and share our emotions, and feelings.

It allows us to convey gratitude, love, affection, and appreciation to those who have played significant roles in our experience in the workplace, or places.  For healthcare professionals who have a passion for the job, farewell is a BIG deal, especially the emotional attachment to patients in their care.

Goodbyes create lasting, cherished memories that people carry as they depart. It serves as a testament to the relationships and experiences that have shaped their lives. These memories provide solace, reality check, and comfort when they are needed most. 

Saying goodbye prevents regrets that may arise from unexpressed emotions. Regrets in workplace interactions can linger and weigh heavily on our hearts. It’s only through GOODBYE that our last interactions are filled with fun, love, emotional appeals, understanding, and closure, which spares us from the burden of regrets after we have left.

If you want to make your presence and departure sparkling, and leave behind a memory that can never be forgotten, “Goodbye” is the daily practice to imbibe. People can forget the bad words you spoke to them, but they will never forget how you made them feel..

Your happiness and fulfilment aren’t stored somewhere remotely; it is in the present. "Destination disease" refers to the tendency to be overly focused on future goals and outcomes, to the point of neglecting the present and the journey towards those goals.

It's the idea that people are so fixated on the "destination" like future achievement, promotion or a financial win that they fail to appreciate or even notice the process and experiences along the way. 

People with "destination disease" often postpone happiness or fulfillment until they reach a specific milestone, neglecting to find joy or satisfaction in the present moment. The focus on the end result overshadows the learning, growth, and experiences that happen during the process of working towards a goal. 

Never wait for a new season before you do your best in the season you are in. This is the time you are built to offer your BEST, and enjoy the best. Tell me, what’s the pride in an 80-year-old man riding a bike on the High Street? 

This mindset can lead to dissatisfaction, burnout, and a feeling that life is only worthwhile when a specific goal is achieved. The opposite of "destination disease" is to just begin appreciating your journey, savouring the small wins, and finding value in the ongoing process of development and learning. Don’t wait for another season to maximise your current season of joy, your happiness and fulfilment are stored in the NOW.